Happy Mommy, Happy Family
When I first had my son, and he would get fussy while breast-feeding, my very sweet mother-in-law would say “he’s feeling you” or in Spanish “el es muy nervioso” which meant “he’s a nervous baby."
I am one of the rare women that actually adores her mother-in-law. My own mother passed away and she came all the way from Peru with her husband and stayed with us for 3 months. I am ever grateful for that love and support, but even I was ticked off.
What mom wants to hear your child is nervous and that he’s not feeding because of your energy?
I mean really?
As new mothers, inadequacy comes with job. An experienced Mama telling you “you are doing it wrong” is like putting vinegar in a really open wound. It hurts.
Doesn’t matter if you are breastfeeding, potty training, or teaching your kid to read, some how, it feels like your self-worth is directly linked to your child’s performance.
So when your child is hurting or not “normal, where the other kids are” it can feel like you are royally F’n up.